Eye rolls and you’ve-forgotten-how-to-parent-sighs couldn’t move me or make me say it unless you were family or a close friend.
Until this day at the grocery store.
I had spent an hour navigating my son’s meltdowns, while trying to ignore the staring-accusations of others who couldn’t have understood. Too exhausted to pretend that I didn’t notice or care, I walked up to the woman who was sighing loudly and talking about my son and said, “Excuse me. I’m sorry that my son bothered you. I apologize. Actually, he’s having a hard time in the store. He has autism.”
There, I had said it.
And while she was somewhat grateful in her response, I didn’t say it because of her.
I said it because I needed to.
Not perfectly – just authentically and bravely.
In their book, The Cure for the “Perfect” Life: 12 Ways to Stop Trying Harder and Start Living Braver! Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory encourages us to trade in perfection (Try-Harder Living) for Braver Living.
The book is FILLED with encouragement, stories, grace, quizzes, and ways that we can trade in perfection for braver living.
You can get their book on Amazon
Why braver is better than perfect
Let’s be honest. Sometimes perfect sounds pretty good – a perfect evening out with my spouse, kids that behave in public, and effortlessly crossing off items from my to-do-list while pushing go and checking-off items on my dare-to-dream-big-list.
But that’s not my life – instead it’s anything but these. My ability to live up to others and my own expectations often fail and the harder I try, the more exhausted I become.
Brave is different. It breathes life and energy into my soul.
Brave doesn’t mean fearless
Even though I dream of Chasing Loins out of Pits covered in snow, I KNOW my frame. I know that I’m more likely to feel fear and be paralyzed by it before I can set my timer to run towards those things I’ve been dreaming, praying and trusting God for.
So, what if all that we have is a little desire to be brave? What if our legs feel more like Jello than strong and graceful when we think about being brave?
What if God said, Go in the strength you have. This is what the Lord told Gideon. (Judges 6:14)
What if he said, he will be with us in the smallest drop of faith, and in the smallest steps and he will take care of the rest?
The strength we have today is enough.
Bravery creates movement for more bravery
I read a lot of productivity posts (oh, Lord help me.. read Part 1. Chapter 4 of The Cure for the Perfect Life — this is exactly why I read them)
People who have learned to be productive often talk about ‘batching tasks’ or using the momentum of completing a task or projects, and using it to complete something similar.
When I choose brave, it feels like it works the same.
Every brave act creates a current of grace that will carry us to our next one.
So, are you with me?
How do YOU want to be BRAVE today?