The one person you need in your life: a mentor


(updated: 4/19/2014 and 12/21/14)

I’m not sure about you.. but I had never been able to keep my tear-stained commitments that I had prayed each time life sent me running to God — but having a spiritual mentor who pushed me through my discomfort and loved me through my failures changed changed all of that.

What about you? Have you struggled with your spiritual commitments too? Do you say (again and again) that your never going back to that old life?

Friend, pray for a mentor. Look for a mentor — a wise, spiritually mature woman who is willing to spend time with you and help you grow in the areas you struggle and want to grow in. If you are in a church, ask your pastor or women’s ministry director to connect you with some women who they think would fit that description.

Whether you are a mentor, had a mentor or are waiting on one, below are some of the things that my mentor taught me.

What my mentor taught me…

–          The right question can take a friendship from zero to 100.

–          It’s healthy to cry.

–          Jesus ADORES you and me.

–          We all need flat-out-on-your-face-prayers.

–          Praying in secret can include blankets, tents and flashlights if you want it to.

–          Nothing is more important than our quiet time with Jesus.

–          We say we don’t have time, yet we make time for what’s most important to us.

–          Even if you don’t have the best singing voice, sing loudly anyway.

–          It’s okay to be sad, hurt, angry… just don’t live there.

–          If we never get what we want on this Earth, is Jesus enough?

–          Christian women stay the youngest, at any age.

–          People are always, always, more important than things.

–          Portion control can be achieved by using tiny silverware.

–          No one sin is ever above God’s grace.

–          Keep healthy boundaries with both safe and unsafe people.

–          Be a safe person that others can come to.

–          Pouring your life into others isn’t easy, but it’s worth it.

–          The Bible is either true or it isn’t.

–          There are no coincidences with God.

–          If Jesus wants you to have it, he will give it to you.

–          Growing isn’t easy, but it’s worth it.

–          God won’t take you out of this world until you accomplish all that He wants you to.

–          Mentoring can include things like time management & quitting smoking.

–          Mentors learn when to be patient and know when to push.

–          Mentors aren’t perfect either.

–          A great spiritual mentor points others to Christ, not themselves.

–         The mentees commitment fuels the mentor & mentee relationship.

–         Mentees become mentors.


Do you have someone who has made a difference in your life?   How?

What area do you want to grow in this coming year? 


  • Margaret Feinberg

    Deanna, love that quote!

    • Deanna

      — me too!! :)

  • Kelly Balarie

    Oh Deanna! This is a great post. I love this line: – Praying in secret can include blankets, tents and flashlights if you want it to.

    I need a mentor! Much love to you. Excited about October!